Amid the flurry of the putting together Truth, Dare, Double Dare, Promise or Repeat and in the aftermath of the publication of The Percussionist’s Wife, yours truly was published in a compendium about, well, good women.
I guess I qualify.
The full title of the book, which was released last year, is When Bad Things Happen to Good Women: Getting You (or Someone You Love) Through the Toughest Times.
Yup, I qualify for that, too. Something bad happened to me. Honestly, who’s immune? My something was perhaps unique (though you’d be amazed at the number of women I’ve met who’ve shared similar stories of betrayal).
That’s the chapter I appeared in: Betrayal. Betrayal, summed up neatly and accurately in the book and in my experience, “leaves you feeling foolish, stupid, humiliated and angry beyond measure, naturally wondering what on earth must people be thinking and/or saying, and oftentimes questioning your own good judgment.” The chapter in which I was featured also includes true stories of women who discover their husband’s infidelity, who discover it after he died and who are left practically penniless after their husband dies.
The author Carole Brody Fleet did quite a lot of research to track down victims of various other types of bad things: Job loss, bankruptcy, loss of a home, broken engagement, terminal illness, widowhood and other losses through death, domestic violence, molestation, sexual assault, stalking and substance abuse.
Even if you’re never a victim like the women who fills the pages of Fleet’s book (“you will gain fantastic insight as to what to do should you find yourself in the same or similar situations”), it’s a good compendium for those of us who know women like them; Fleet promises “you are going to find wonderful ideas and suggestions as to what to say and do — and perhaps even more importantly, what never to do — when someone you know and love is dealing with a bad thing.”
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I’m celebrating the countdown to the launch on March 28 of Truth, Dare, Double Dare, Promise or Repeat: On Finding the Meaning of “Like” in 1982 with a month-long blogging bonanza, which means I’ll be blogging here every day this month about my book, about memoirs in general and about the launch.